Learn to accept yourself
The very first step is to accept yourself – lovingly. No person in the world in perfect so why bother and shed tears over your imperfectness. This is how God wanted us to be – Imperfect! We might have something that someone else may lack and someone else might be endowed with the qualities, which we lack.
This incompleteness makes us go out and seek companions who make us feel loved, wanted and complete. Oh what a great feeling! Would we experience it if we were inside the cocoon of our perfection? Never! So accept yourself the way you are. It will free your mind of a heavy baggage of unnecessary worries. You will instantly feel light and cheerful.
Liberate yourself - Go out and do what you like!
How long it has been since you last went to have a walk among the pines – something that you loved as a child? How long has it been when you walked hand in hand with your friend to the bakery and tossed a coin to decide what to buy? These might seem very simple things but these simple things have the power to add on to build great confidence and fulfilment.
Life if see is actually quite simple. What gets a bit too complex though is to remain simple. Isn’t it? Just as small drops of water make the mighty ocean, the little things you enjoy doing have the capability to turn you into a storehouse of confidence. When God made you, He put a desire in your heart and bestowed onto you the capability to achieve it.
However, in the process of growing up, you forgot what exactly was your purpose, what is that you liked and what is that you enjoyed doing. It does happen with lots and lots of people who do feel like breaking free but are too tied up in their day to day responsibilities that it gets impossible for them to spare even 10 minutes to reflect on their lives, their direction, their dreams and goals. It’s our duty to clear the mess that prevents us from hearing to our heart.
The conversations with your heart should keep getting clearer and the best way to do it is to find time to do what you enjoy. And since you enjoy doing that activity, it straightaway means that you have all the aptitude and intelligence necessary to do the job effortlessly even though you may not realize it.
Find your flock
Birds of a feather flock together. You must find out people with whom you enjoy being. They are certainly the people of your frequency and the energy flow between you and them is natural.
Life becomes easy when you are among the people who are more or less on the same plane of thought as you and it’s easier to relate to them. They seem to understand you and vice versa thus creating conditions for healthy conversations. A good conversation is a very healthy exercise and an important need of our mind. We all want our ideas to be heard and appreciated and a good company provides platform for the same.
Set Achievable Goals and Go for it!
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The idea is to begin with a small single step that can then further developed into giant strides. Learn to do the work at hand rather than to overwhelm oneself by looking at the entirety of a mammoth looking task. Just like the soil underneath your foot, the top of mountain too would someday be under your step.
The only way to do something is to Go For It! No matter how small the progress is the focus should be on completing a task successfully even though it’s a small task. A series of big uncompleted task is a sure shot way to depression. Break a big task into a list of small tasks to be completed. Tick off from your list each job successfully completed. A completed task no matter how small it is gives a sense of achievement that boosts our confidence and equips us with more energy to try a bigger task.
Monday, July 23, 2007
Thursday, July 12, 2007
How Self Confidence Makes Students Bright
Self-confidence comes handy in all situations of life. Be it an adult or a child or a student, everybody has lots of tasks to complete and self-confidence is necessary to perform tasks successfully. Take the case of school-going children. With so many subjects, they go through a lot of stress. Class tests, debates, term papers, assignments, presentations…the list seems unending.
Having ample self-confidence helps students undergo the stress of school and college education, thereby making a strong foundation to build their future. What is seen as the most important factor that determines the performance of students in school is neither intellect, nor energy or talent. What is? You guessed it right – it is the amount of self-confidence a student has which decides how much he will be able to use his talent, energy and intellect! Let’s see how self confidence makes students soar higher
Self-confident students make the most of the classroom
Self-confident students are able to pay more attention to the teacher in the classroom as they develop an inherent will to succeed and outdo others. They are more focused and do not hesitate to ask questions. Asking questions in the classroom requires certain courage to stand up and interrupt the teacher to ask a question, and it requires self-confidence to do that.
On the other hand, a student lacking self-confidence might not stand up and ask the teacher to explain once more even though he is struggling to get a concept right. This creates obstacles to their learning, as many things remain unclear to them that require further guidance by the teacher.
They make lot of pals
Self-confident students make lot of pals and engage themselves in subject discussions with classmates. This kind of involvement keeps them abreast of the latest, and also acts as a platform to judge their knowledge as compared to other fellow students. Discussions also bring various viewpoints to the forefront in a common place, thereby enriching everyone by giving a multi-angle view of the topic. Self-confident students therefore gain manifold advantages as compared to other students.
Being in a group also help them know about the latest in the field of education, the latest learning software, a certain book which contains a lot of practice questions, an interactive CD recently released, an invite-only seminar on career guidance, scholarship tests of various universities, fee discount on certain courses and so on which keeps them aware of the opportunities ahead and help them tailor their efforts for specific targets while other students keep aloof and depend on whatever they can gather in a single handed way.
They are able to maintain calm while answering questions, therefore making fewer mistakes
It is very important for students to know that their result score depends upon what they write and not upon what they are. No matter how great a genius a student is, he is awarded marks on the basis of what he writes in the answer sheet at the time of examination. A little nervousness, hesitation, and lack of self-belief can let confusion descend and make it difficult for him to tackle even the simplest of questions. A confident student, however, is able to keep his calm and is able to answer questions he has not really prepared for! Such is the magic of self-confidence!
Success attracts success
The marks of term papers, applause during presentations, appreciation from teachers and the opposite sex (don’t neglect this great confidence booster!) boost confidence to help students perform even better in the final exams. Once appreciated, these students immediately get an edge over other students and close competitors and get the ball in their court. The one who has tasted appreciation and acceptance craves it even more. These students will work harder to remain in the limelight. Success, hence, becomes a habit for these students. And why not, they have the greatest weapon to take on their opponents – their self-confidence!
Having ample self-confidence helps students undergo the stress of school and college education, thereby making a strong foundation to build their future. What is seen as the most important factor that determines the performance of students in school is neither intellect, nor energy or talent. What is? You guessed it right – it is the amount of self-confidence a student has which decides how much he will be able to use his talent, energy and intellect! Let’s see how self confidence makes students soar higher
Self-confident students make the most of the classroom
Self-confident students are able to pay more attention to the teacher in the classroom as they develop an inherent will to succeed and outdo others. They are more focused and do not hesitate to ask questions. Asking questions in the classroom requires certain courage to stand up and interrupt the teacher to ask a question, and it requires self-confidence to do that.
On the other hand, a student lacking self-confidence might not stand up and ask the teacher to explain once more even though he is struggling to get a concept right. This creates obstacles to their learning, as many things remain unclear to them that require further guidance by the teacher.
They make lot of pals
Self-confident students make lot of pals and engage themselves in subject discussions with classmates. This kind of involvement keeps them abreast of the latest, and also acts as a platform to judge their knowledge as compared to other fellow students. Discussions also bring various viewpoints to the forefront in a common place, thereby enriching everyone by giving a multi-angle view of the topic. Self-confident students therefore gain manifold advantages as compared to other students.
Being in a group also help them know about the latest in the field of education, the latest learning software, a certain book which contains a lot of practice questions, an interactive CD recently released, an invite-only seminar on career guidance, scholarship tests of various universities, fee discount on certain courses and so on which keeps them aware of the opportunities ahead and help them tailor their efforts for specific targets while other students keep aloof and depend on whatever they can gather in a single handed way.
They are able to maintain calm while answering questions, therefore making fewer mistakes
It is very important for students to know that their result score depends upon what they write and not upon what they are. No matter how great a genius a student is, he is awarded marks on the basis of what he writes in the answer sheet at the time of examination. A little nervousness, hesitation, and lack of self-belief can let confusion descend and make it difficult for him to tackle even the simplest of questions. A confident student, however, is able to keep his calm and is able to answer questions he has not really prepared for! Such is the magic of self-confidence!
Success attracts success
The marks of term papers, applause during presentations, appreciation from teachers and the opposite sex (don’t neglect this great confidence booster!) boost confidence to help students perform even better in the final exams. Once appreciated, these students immediately get an edge over other students and close competitors and get the ball in their court. The one who has tasted appreciation and acceptance craves it even more. These students will work harder to remain in the limelight. Success, hence, becomes a habit for these students. And why not, they have the greatest weapon to take on their opponents – their self-confidence!
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